TABU Dictionary.....Courtesy of TABU to help you understand the lifestyle terms.
AC/DC Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi;
Bisexual.
ADULT Euphemism for pornographic.
ALL BLUE.
Straight with sexual activities limited to opposite sex only.
ALL CULTURES Person or couple who enjoys
all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE)
AMERICAN CULTURE Man on top, the missionary
position.
ANAL SEX Anal intercourse; see Greek, Greek Culture.
ANALINGUS
Oral contact or stimulation of the anus of one partner by kissing, licking, or sucking of the other.
ANIMAL
TRAINING Sexual activity with animals, usually dogs and women; Bestiality
ARTS
Euphemism for fetishes; Cultures
B&D or B/D Bondage and discipline; use of various methods
to restrain someone while administering discipline, usually done by a "master" to his/her "slave". (see
BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
BBW Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their
"ideal" weight, but are comfortable with the size that they are..
BESTIALITY
(see ANIMAL TRAINING)
BI Bisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC)
BI-CURIOUS
A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.
BIZARRE Unusual sexual desires
BONDAGE
A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating
sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered
"submissive."
BUKKAKE a Japanese sexual term that refers to showering a receiver
with sperm from one, several or many men. It is always a sperm shower and, therefore, those on the giving end are always male.
CAN ENTERTAIN Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.
CAN TRAVEL Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing.
CANING
A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.
CHEATING
Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.
CLEAN
Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.
CLOSED DOOR (see CLOSED SWINGING)
CLOSED
SWINGING Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms, usually in the same house. Provides a maximum of
privacy.
CLOSET SWINGER A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET)
COUPLE In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating),
committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.
CPL
(see COUPLE)
CUCKOLD While the originally meaning is the husband of a wife who
cheats, it has come to mean (more often than not) a husband who's wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about
it. It can also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be reversed on
the wife. Since different people use the word to mean different things, it is best to ask the people using the word in order
to clarify the definition.
CULTURE Euphemism for Fetish or Arts.
CUNNILINGUS
Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE)
DIFFERENT ROOM Couples that play in different rooms or out of site of their
partner.
DILDO An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation
of the vagina and sometimes the anus.
DIRECTOR The term used to describe the principal person who
runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party
or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.
DISCIPLINE
A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the
submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.
DISCREET
OR DISCRETION Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or
answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity.
DOCILE
Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).
DOMESTIC TRAINING Submissive obedience
to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.
DOMINANT A sexual partner in control of
a willing submissive partner.
ENGLISH CULTURE: Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning
ENTERTAIN
(see CAN ENTERTAIN)
EXHIBITIONIST Behavior in which an individual experiences sexual
arousal or pleasure from displaying his/her body. Enjoys being watched.
F Female
FELLATIO
Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.
FETISH
Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.
FLAGELLATION
Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking.
FRENCH CULTURE: Oral-genital sexual activity;
see Fellatio, Cuntilingus
FUN AND GAMES Euphemism for sexual activity.
FULL
SWAP COUPLE Couple that engages in full sexual activity with other couples. Also see HARD CORE/ HARD CORE SWINGING
GAY
A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.
GBM
Gay Black Male
GENEROUS Refers to money for sex.
GIRL
GIRL ONLY Couples or single females that only permit sexual contact between the ladies.
GREEK
CULTURE: Anal-penile intercourse
GROUP ROOM Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished
with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).
GROUP SEX
Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.
GWM Gay White Male
HARD
CORE A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.
HARD
SWINGING (see HARD CORE)
HEAD Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head"
(see French)
HEDONIST Someone who lives for pleasure.
HETEROSEXUAL
Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.
HOMOSEXUAL Sexual attraction to members
of the same sex. (See GAY)
HORNY Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure.
HUNG
Refers to a man with a large penis.
HWP Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their
ideal body weight.
INDOOR Swinging activities in general
INDOOR
SPORTS (See INDOOR)
INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP Seeks a swinging relationship that
includes emotional and recreational values.
IRL In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat
ISO
In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female
LEATHER A fetish; Sexual stimulation through
the wearing or touching of leather or leather garments.
LESBIAN A woman sexually and emotionally
attracted to other women. (see GAY)
LTR Long Term Relationship
MARITAL
AIDS Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.
MASOCHISM
Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.
MASTER/SLAVE
Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
MATROOM
Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).
MEET FOR PLEASURE
Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity.
MENAGE
A' TROIS Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. (see THREESOME, TRIAD)
MORESOMES More than three people in a swinging interaction. (see GROUP SEX)
MBC Married Black Couple
MBiC Married Bisexual Couple
MWC
Married White Couple
NASCA The North American Swing Club Association. An association
of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become. Levels of members:
Affiliate Club, General, Associate and Institutional for swing clubs and magazines, general swinging community, media and
institutions of learning and research.
NEWCOMERS (AKA Newbie)New people in swinging; First-timers.
NONSMOKER Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not
smoke are sought for swinging purposes.
OFF-PREMISE No swinging takes place at the club or party;
you meet and make your own arrangements. Great for newcomers.
OPEN DOOR (see OPEN SWINGING)
OPEN
SWINGING A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in
the same room. A minimum of privacy.
ORAL-GENITAL (see FRENCH, CUNNILINGUS, FELLATIO, HEAD)
ORGY
Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; Complete absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group
sex.
PARTY Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.
PARTY
CLOTHES Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during
the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows
the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play.
PARTY
HOUSE (Western US) A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties.
PASSIVE
Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE)
PHOTO Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with
similar photos of others.
PHOTOGRAPHY Interested in exchange and/or making of nude
or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested
in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.
P/P Photo and phone number (used in personal
ads).
PRO Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.
RECREATIONAL
SWINGER A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion; not interested in forming any long term friendship
or emotional attachment.
RESTRAINT Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.
ROMAN Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see ROMAN CULTURE)
ROMAN
CULTURE: Sexual orgies
RUBBER Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through
the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D.
SAFE Used to describe a person who cannot
conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy; Naturally or surgically sterile.
SAME
ROOM Couples that play ONLY within the same room
S.A.S.E.
Self-addressed stamped envelope.
SBF Single Black Female
SBiF
Single Bisexual Female
SBM Single Black Male
SGL
(see SINGLE)
S&M or S/M Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM, MASOCHISM).
SINGLE
A swinger without a partner, does not refer to marital status.
SOCIAL A party, dance or other gathering
usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social, but privately
arranged swinging may follow a social.
SOCIAL SWING CLUB A swing club, generally private membership
that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational
and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee
or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important.
SODOMY
Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite sex or same sex partner.
SOFT
SWAP (see SOFT SWINGERS , SOFT SWINGING)
SOFT SWINGERS Couples who only have intercourse
with their own partner. No swapping for intercourse.
SOFT SWINGING The term used to describe
same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than
your spouse. The first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).
SRS
Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING).
STD Sexually Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the
late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social and moral
implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.
STR
or STR8 (see STRAIGHT)
STRAIGHT Any person who is not interested in engaging in
homosexual activity or A person who does not use drugs; also used by swingers to denote non-swinging people.
SUBMISSIVE
Passive, wishes to be dominated (see Passive)
SWAPPING Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity.
SWEDISH CULTURE: Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate
another
SWF Single White Female
SWING MAGAZINE A periodical catering to
the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish
articles of general interest to the swinging community.
SWINGING An alternative lifestyle for consenting
adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge
and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved.
SWINGING LIFESTYLE
Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.
SWINGING MARRIAGE Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.
SWINGLES Swingers that are "single"
SWM
Single White Male
TAN Tested Antibody Negative for HIV virus(AIDS)
THREESOME
Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. (see Menage a Trois)
TICKET
A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no
intention to swing or is not free to swing.
TOYS Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS)
TRANSSEXUAL
Individual who has undergone conversion from one gender to another through surgery and hormone treatments; or one who is in
the process of gender conversion
TRANSVESTITE A person who receives sexual gratification by
wearing clothes identified with the opposite sex; not necessarily homosexual.
TRAVEL
(see CAN TRAVEL)
TRIAD Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing
relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.
TRIOLISM
Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a common but confusing usage (see TRIAD)
TUBAL
LIGATION Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band
Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.
UTOPIAN
SWINGER A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.
VASECTOMY
Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to artificially sterilize a male.
VERSATILE
Bisexual. (see AC/DC)
VIBRATOR Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the
vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are
run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators
are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.
VOLUPTUOUS
Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well
formed hips.
VOYEUR A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.
VOYEURISM
Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity.
WAY-OUTS/ WEIRDOS
Those people interested in activities usually considered by the majority to be bizarre, kinky, unusual, or unconventional.
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