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  • AC/DC Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual.
  • ADULT Euphemism for pornographic.
  • ALL BLUE Straight with sexual activities limited to opposite sex only.
  • ALL CULTURES Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE)
  • AMERICAN CULTURE Man on top, the missionary position.
  • ANAL SEX Anal intercourse; see Greek, Greek Culture.
  • ANALINGUS Oral contact or stimulation of the anus of one partner by kissing, licking, or sucking of the other.
  • ANIMAL TRAINING Sexual activity with animals, usually dogs and women; Bestiality
  • ARTS Euphemism for fetishes; Cultures
  • B&D or B/D Bondage and discipline; use of various methods to restrain someone while administering discipline, usually done by a "master" to his/her "slave". (see BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
  • BBW Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their "ideal" weight, but are comfortable with the size that they are..
  • BESTIALITY (see ANIMAL TRAINING)
  • BI Bisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC)
  • BI-CURIOUS A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.
  • BIZARRE Unusual sexual desires
  • BONDAGE A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive."
  • BUKKAKE a Japanese sexual term that refers to showering a receiver with sperm from one, several or many men. It is always a sperm shower and, therefore, those on the giving end are always male.
  • CAN ENTERTAIN Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.
  • CAN TRAVEL Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing.

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  • CANING A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.
  • CHEATING Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.
  • CLEAN Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.
  • CLOSED DOOR (see CLOSED SWINGING)
  • CLOSED SWINGING Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms, usually in the same house. Provides a maximum of privacy.
  • CLOSET SWINGER A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET)
  • COUPLE In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (co habetating), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.
  • CPL (see COUPLE)
  • CUCKOLD While the originally meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it has come to mean (more often than not) a husband who's wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be reversed on the wife. Since different people use the word to mean different things, it is best to ask the people using the word in order to clarify the definition.
  • CULTURE Euphemism for Fetish or Arts.
  • CUNNILINGUS Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE)
  • DIFFERENT ROOM Couples that play in different rooms or out of site of their partner.
  • DILDO An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus.
  • DIRECTOR The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.
  • DISCIPLINE A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.
  • DISCREET OR DISCRETION Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity.
  • DOCILE Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).
  • DOMESTIC TRAINING Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.
  • DOMINANT A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.
  • DOMINATRIX(plural dominatrixes or dominatrices) or mistress is a woman or women who takes the dominant role in bondage, discipline (in sexual-fetish sense of the word) and sadomasochism, or BDSM. A common form of address for a submissive to a dominatrix is "mistress", "ma'am", "domina" or "maîtresse". Note that a dominatrix does not necessarily dominate a male partner; a dominatrix may well have female submissives, nor must the role of a dominatrix involve pain toward the submissive; her domination can be verbal, involving humiliating tasks and servitude.
  • ENGLISH CULTURE Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning
  • ENTERTAIN (see CAN ENTERTAIN)
  • EXHIBITIONIST Behavior in which an individual experiences sexual arousal or pleasure from displaying his/her body. Enjoys being watched.
  • F Female
  • FELLATIO Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.
  • FETISH Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.

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  • FLAGELLATION Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking.
  • FRENCH CULTURE Oral-genital sexual activity; see Fellatio, Cuntilingus
  • FUN AND GAMES Euphemism for sexual activity.
  • FULL SWAP COUPLE Couple that engages in full sexual activity with other couples. Also see HARD CORE/ HARD CORE SWINGING
  • GAY A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.
  • GBM Gay Black Male
  • GENEROUS Refers to money for sex.
  • GIRL GIRL ONLY Couples or single females that only permit sexual contact between the ladies.
  • GREEK CULTURE Anal-penile intercourse
  • GROUP ROOM Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).
  • GROUP SEX Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.
  • GWM Gay White Male
  • HARD CORE A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.
  • HARD SWINGING (see HARD CORE)
  • HEAD Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head" (see French)
  • HEDONIST Someone who lives for pleasure.
  • HETEROSEXUAL Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.
  • HOMOSEXUAL Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY)
  • HORNY Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure.
  • HUNG Refers to a man with a large penis.
  • HWP Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.
  • INDOOR Swinging activities in general
  • INDOOR SPORTS (See INDOOR)
  • INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values.
  • IRL In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat
  • ISO In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female
  • LEATHER A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing or touching of leather or leather garments.
  • LESBIAN A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY)
  • LTR Long Term Relationship
  • MARITAL AIDS Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.
  • MASOCHISM Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.
  • MASTER/SLAVE Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
  • MATROOM Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).
  • MEET FOR PLEASURE Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity.
  • MENAGE A' TROIS Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. (see THREESOME, TRIAD)
  • MBC Married Black Couple
  • MBiC Married Bisexual Couple
  • MWC Married White Couple
  • MIC Married Interracial Couple
  • MISTRESS a woman or women who takes the dominant role in bondage, discipline (in sexual-fetish sense of the word) and sadomasochism, or BDSM. A common form of address for a submissive to a dominatrix is "mistress", "ma'am", "domina" or "maîtresse".
  • MORESOMES More than three people in a swinging interaction. (see GROUP SEX)
  • NASCA The North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become. Levels of members: Affiliate Club, General, Associate and Institutional for swing clubs and magazines, general swinging community, media and institutions of learning and research.
  • NEWCOMERS (AKA Newbie)New people in swinging; First-timers.
  • NONSMOKER Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.

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  • OFF-PREMISE No swinging takes place at the club or party; you meet and make your own arrangements. Great for newcomers.
  • OPEN DOOR (see OPEN SWINGING)
  • OPEN SWINGING A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room. A minimum of privacy.
  • ORAL-GENITAL (see FRENCH, CUNNILINGUS, FELLATIO, HEAD)
  • ORGY Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; Complete absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group sex.
  • PARTY Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.
  • PARTY CLOTHES Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap- arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play.
  • PARTY HOUSE (Western US) A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties.
  • PASSIVE Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE)
  • PHOTO Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.
  • PHOTOGRAPHY Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.
  • PILLOW PRINCESSA person who likes to lay back and have sexual acts performed on them but is not obligated to perform on others.
  • PolyamoryIs the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.
  • P/P Photo and phone number (used in personal ads).
  • PRO Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.
  • RECREATIONAL SWINGER A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion; not interested in forming any long term friendship or emotional attachment.
  • RESTRAINT Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.
  • ROMAN Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see ROMAN CULTURE)
  • ROMAN CULTURE Sexual orgies
  • RUBBER Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D.
  • SAFE Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy; Naturally or surgically sterile.
  • SAME ROOM Couples that play ONLY within the same room
  • S.A.S.E. Self-addressed stamped envelope.
  • SBF Single Black Female
  • SBiF Single Bisexual Female
  • SBM Single Black Male
  • SGL (see SINGLE)
  • S&M or S/M Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM, MASOCHISM).
  • SINGLE A swinger without a partner, does not refer to marital status.
  • SOCIAL A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.
  • SOCIAL SWING CLUB A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important.
  • SODOMY Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite sex or same sex partner.
  • SOFT SWAP (see SOFT SWINGERS , SOFT SWINGING)
  • SOFT SWINGERS Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner. No swapping for intercourse.
  • SOFT SWINGING The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).
  • SRS Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING)
  • STD Sexually Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.
  • STR or STR8 (see STRAIGHT)
  • STRAIGHT Any person who is not interested in engaging in homosexual activity or A person who does not use drugs; also used by swingers to denote non-swinging people.
  • SUBMISSIVE Passive, wishes to be dominated (see Passive)
  • SWAPPING Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity.
  • SWEDISH CULTURE Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another
  • SWF Single White Female
  • SWING MAGAZINE A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community.
  • SWINGING An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved.
  • SWINGING LIFESTYLE Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.
  • SWINGING MARRIAGE Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.
  • SWINGLES Swingers that are "single"
  • SWM Single White Male

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  • TAN Tested Antibody Negative for HIV virus(AIDS)
  • THREESOME Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. (see Menage a Trois)
  • TICKET A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.
  • TOYS Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS)
  • TRANSSEXUAL Individual who has undergone conversion from one gender to another through surgery and hormone treatments; or one who is in the process of gender conversion.
  • TRANSVESTITE A person who receives sexual gratification by wearing clothes identified with the opposite sex; not necessarily homosexual.
  • TRAVEL (see CAN TRAVEL)
  • TRIAD Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.
  • TRIOLISM Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a common but confusing usage (see TRIAD)
  • TUBAL LIGATION Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.
  • UTOPIAN SWINGER A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.
  • VASECTOMY Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to artificially sterilize a male.
  • VERSATILE Bisexual. (see AC/DC)
  • VIBRATOR Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.
  • VOLUPTUOUS Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.
  • VOYEUR A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.
  • VOYEURISM Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity.
  • WAY-OUTS/ WEIRDOS Those people interested in activities usually considered by the majority to be bizarre, kinky, unusual, or unconventional.

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